2016: Intermission

Jaibala/ July 6, 2016/ Musings/ 22 comments

Half the year has gone by, and like any other thing these 6 months had its ups and downs. Some plans worked, some failed miserably and along with the highs there were a lot of heartbreaks. The most important thing is that I am grateful for all of it, each and everything because these were some of the important lessons I learnt from this first half of 2016.

The biggest revelation was that I don’t necessarily have to be loud and angry to be heard.  Simple isn’t it! But it took me a whole lot of time to learn and the person who taught me this is S. Yes he has turned me into this mellow sweet mom from the screaming Banshee mom that I used to be. And guess what things get done so much more easily now. Especially when I apply the same lesson to him during one of his tantrums. What! If I can’t scream, he does not get to scream too, right?

Being ditched and on your back foot is not necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes your greatest moment of glory comes from your biggest setback. Also you get the biggest lesson in life by your reaction to things under pressure. And I was so glad to have realised I have grown up. Being an adult sometimes is very important to survive this world, even though it is the most disliked thing to do. So it was great to find out that I have adulting capabilities.

It has been a year bad decisions, all over it seems.  Presidential candidates that belong in circuses, Monetary defaulters who can escape whenever they wish to and certain referendums that pose a huge economic threat to the world in general are all things that point a finger in that direction. It has for sure been a year of hate and violence. The crimes ever so gruesome and the rise in the number of terrorist attacks have all left me numb. It is the helplessness and the inability of doing something constructive, at least the circus acts can be called out for what they really are, but for the most part we are left stunned at our own inability to change or control some aspects that hurt and torture us emotionally.

I also saw the growing business of negativity and offence this year. You know the kind where people feed on the negatives and ignore the positives. Fear and belittling became the norm and everything that was even remotely positive was scrutinised as ‘too good to be true’ incidents. It was not the time of the birth of the Troll but it sure was the time of the rise of the TROLL

The best example is the growing debate on feminism. I see so many people denouncing the word without even knowing its meaning. I see so many others judging people based on what they perceive feminism to be. And that is when it hit me, most people don’t know what they are talking about. I mean when someone compares feminism and chauvinism as equal, you know that people have no clue and just make it their business to troll others.

Which brings me to the next point, we as people have such mixed up priorities and it could not have been truer anymore than what it was this year.  We debate a selfie that is taken in a drought affected area rather than the drought itself. We spend more time talking about killers and terrorists rather than talking about the heroes and survivors. And we are ready to hang comedians for doing their job but neither do we punish people who commit gruesome horrible crimes nor do we hold people accountable for not doing their jobs right. People complain of flooding in the rains, but no one wants to dispose the garbage properly.  People complain of traffic jams but at the same time will neither follow the rules nor ride on the road. The foot path is the bike lane these days.

We all are great complainers, and we know how to point fingers at everything but ourselves. The simple way to bring about change is to change your perspective. While I agree, there has been a large degree of apathy from the governance point of view, but have we all fulfilled every duty we have. We all have enough time to debate on social media over irresponsible statements passed by others, but have we ever checked ourselves for responsible behaviour.


But, in spite of all this, I still believe in people. Why? Because I am surrounded by some of the nicest people. I know! Lucky me. I have seen them do good, selflessly and unconditionally and try to make a difference in their own way. It takes a big heart and a strong mind to do even some of what these amazing people are doing and achieving and they are my biggest inspiration, my faith and hope and my strongest support. And to them I say a heartfelt Thank You for just being who you are to me.

We still have six months left of this wonderful year, let us make the most of it. Click To Tweet



About Jaibala

Academically a Microbiologist, I am a Web Columnist for popular magazines and websites, Freelance Writer and a Blogger. Words define me and writing and reading compete to be the love of my life. My biggest belief is that there is something good in everything and I always looks to highlight the best in things. Creative writing is my forte.You can reach me by dropping a mail at contact@jaibalarao.com


  1. Oh yes. I can relate. My son doesn’t co-operate when I scream either. He has helped me mellow down, and for that, I am thankful.

    I loved that you ended on a positive note, Jai. I too chose to believe that there is more love than loss, and more hope than despair. It makes me sleep peacefully at night.
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    1. Yes! Kids can even teach us lessons we don’t want to learn 😉

      With everything that is going around, I believe that only my faith in the good, which is there all around us, is the only thing that keeps me going. Especially as parents I think we need to hold on to the good.

  2. Looks like personally you have had a great year. But yes, the things that are happening around us and the world at large these days do not paint a happy picture.
    Hope you have a wonderful time the rest of the year.

    1. Thank You so much Reema. I hope that the rest of the year gives us a happier world too.

  3. Takes all kinds to make a world. I keep telling myself this when I feel depressed or sad or unfairly treated. I love how you ended with a positive note that despite everything there are good people in the world. It’s what ultimately matters.

    Hope you have a lovely second half of 2016.
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    1. Thank You so much Shailaja. So true, all kinds of people are required to make up the world, but it makes me sad to see the negativity highlighted rather than the positives. I hope that, I remember this lesson always.

  4. I think that’s how life is. It has been so always. Today, social media makes it more obvious. It is seen more that we concentrate on the negative. But yes as long as we know how to be happy and not get affected, it should be fine 🙂

    1. I agree, it is putting every thought out on social media that exposes us to both the good and bad. I do think that life has changed over the years because of that, we are more vocal and more vulnerable at the same time. But yes as long as we are happy the rest wil lalways fall into place.

  5. I like the part about not being loud to be heard 🙂 Must try it out. Good to have nice people around to support and encourage us in trying times, celebrating happy moments with them makes them even more special. They give us strength to face the challenges life throws our way, happy writing.

    1. Totally agree, its the people around us that make us. Thank You so much Sulekha. Do let me know how the trail of not being loud goes, it is more effective I think.

  6. Its good to be surrounded with positive people. While so many bad things happening around, these people ser an example for us!

    These six months have been a month of realisation for me too

    1. They sure do. Waiting to read your post.

  7. I think all years will have similar ups and downs. But what is important is that we don’t let that get on to us and focus on the good stuff. So happy that you have lovely people watching your back. That’s what we all live for. Big hugs to S. Children teach us the best lessons. May the rest of the year as special.

    1. True, every year has its own ups and downs, and that is what makes them unique and special. Thank You so much Rachna, for being an important part of my life. Will convey the love to S. Thank You again :0

  8. Let me begin with the ending ..
    The tweet saying six months are remaining is a suoer hit for me.
    Because what is gone can’t be corrected only the future can be ! Enjoyed reading the post telling about your self talk .

    Ignoring positive things is the basic problem with everyone and one must work on it .

    Keep writing, you write awesome !

    1. Thank You so much Dixita. It is always great to hear from you 🙂

  9. Looks like you’ve had a pretty decent year on the professional front. And maybe, personal too – with a lot of realisations.
    Good luck for the rest of the year!
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    1. Thank You Sid for everything 🙂

  10. Thats a neat sum up Jai. The funniest was when some one called the a lady ‘Dear’ and the whole controversy dragged down the main question in the rest of the tweet. That is what politicians are getting adept at nowadays. But, we can only hope. There is nothing but hope to keep us going.

    1. Oh yes the whole dear and the following aunty national controversy. Some times makes me wonder if people are really that weird.

  11. Having good people by your side always makes the days happier and more joyful!
    Indeed, the first half of the year has seen so many changes on the global level. One can only wonder what the second half holds for us.

    1. Yes, people around you make all the difference to the way you see things. I only hope the changes coming by are for the better.

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