And We Got His Passport!

Jaibala/ November 9, 2016/ Musings/ 30 comments

This is the story of how we got a Passport for S. Now I know you all will be wondering why this is even a story. Everyone has a passport. Well stay with me, on this because I have had one of the most unexpected experiences with the passport.

Now as I have written before we wanted S to have an identity that he identifies with and not one that confuses him, and so his passport also needed to be the same. Not wanting to hide anything from S, I decided to leave the Father’s Name column blank. Now what we were told about this process is that this is impossible. People, authorities, change.org petitions and even touts all behaved as if I was asking Donald Trump to behave like a human.

And yet, stubborn as I am I persisted. Went in on September 15th to get a reissue of my passport and make the impossible task of getting S’s passport issues. We had all the required documents and then some. Every time an official from the passport office held the papers I expected them to say, “Are you mad. What you are asking for is not going to happen.”

But as we went from one process to the next none of that happened, and we were excited. No problem, at all. Before we reached the final verification counter we were already celebrating. But that is where they decided to hit the pause button on our celebratory mood. S’s passport was put on hold, I was told to go to the RPO without any reason or instructions as to why.
As we left the PSK, we were clueless as to what is happening or going to happen. I imagined all those people who told me it is impossible laughing at the fact that I didn’t get the final go ahead for S’s Passport. What followed next were multiple calls to RPO Mumbai to figure out what needs to be done. Finally we were told to wait for my passport to come through before taking S’s process further.

With Police verification, my passport took about 20 days to come. And then began the phone calls to understand this process again. Finally we were told that we had to come to the RPO with my passport and the copy of Annexure G that we had submitted.

Now we did not have the copy of Annexure G, you see we were not given back the papers submitted that day at PSK Malad. The people at the RPO were understanding and asked me to come with my passport. Next day I travelled to Worli with S in tow, still unsure about what was needed. I half expected everyone else to be proven right and someone tell me this is not going to happen.
My turn to meet the APO came, and I walked in, confident. They took the receipt and my passport and scanned the BAR code to access S’s file. After a little bit of scrutiny the APO asked, “You do not want to add father’s name? Are you sure?”

This is a question I am so accustomed to answer, so pat came the reply “No, He is not a part of our lives”.
“Okay then, write a letter, saying that please issue the passport without father’s name and Passport office will not be responsible for any legal problems arising out of it.”
Two minutes is what it took me to hand write the letter. The APO then signed it and asked me to submit it to a file. And that was the end of the Worli office exploration. Then the process went ahead and we had the police verification, which happened faster than mine actually. And the result of all this on Dhanteras day we had the passport in our hand, exactly how we wanted it to be.

Now while the whole process seems complicated and time consuming for a single mom, the major plus point is there is a procedure in place for this process. I guess that it isn’t used much and hence the problem when it comes to information dissemination. I feel the process can be made a little less cumbersome if instructions and information was readily available on the website.
As far as tips go, here is my list of things to remember:

• Take a Xerox of all affidavits submitted, just in case you do not get the submitted file papers back.
• Be prepared to go to your regional passport office once, and carry with you the copy of Annexure G and your own passport.
• Have proper documentation, of your divorce or separation. [Separation requires a different Annexure, please check the website]

I am so glad that there is a proper process in place, it is just about giving out the information more widely.

About Jaibala

Academically a Microbiologist, I am a Web Columnist for popular magazines and websites, Freelance Writer and a Blogger. Words define me and writing and reading compete to be the love of my life. My biggest belief is that there is something good in everything and I always looks to highlight the best in things. Creative writing is my forte.You can reach me by dropping a mail at contact@jaibalarao.com

30 Comments

  1. Congratulations on the ‘miracle’ marvel! 🙂
    I know how many hoops you had to jump through to get it all sorted. Even though the process seems more streamlined these days, it could still do with removing a lot of middlemen.

    Now, to travel 🙂
    Sid recently posted…‘Amma’ MiaMy Profile

    1. True, it could do with proper information distribution to begin with. And yes now to travel, the world is waiting 🙂

  2. Its commendable that you did not follow the herd mentality and persisted with getting it done. Congratulations and kudos to you effort and belief.
    Karan recently posted…Movie Character I Want to Play #TadkaTuesdayMy Profile

    1. Thank You so much. I am so glad that I did not get bogged down by popular opinions.

  3. That’s wonderful, Jai. I am glad that you persisted and did things the way you felt were right.
    Rachna recently posted…What is the Optimum Screen Time for Children?My Profile

    1. Thank You so much Rachna 🙂 I have had inspiration from some wonderful women like you to know to follow my gut.

  4. Congrats. This blogpost will give courage lots of people to go ahead. More power to you Jai.
    Anindya Sundar Basu recently posted…Its all fishy in Vizag fishing harbourMy Profile

    1. Thank You Anin. I hope this posts reaches everyone who needs to read it.

  5. It’s good you wrote about the process .This will give hope to a lot of single moms.Congratulations on doing it successfully
    Dr.Amrita Basu recently posted…Passport to Success 7 habits of highly effective people :Book review for mompreneurs My Profile

    1. Thank You So Much Amrita 🙂

  6. Congratulations on getting S’s passport! Good on you for sticking to your guns and seeing this whole thing through. It was quite a task, I know, but the result is sweet. And this will be so useful for other single moms too, to know that this is something that can be done.
    Modern Gypsy recently posted…#KashmirDiaries: The journey begins!My Profile

    1. Thank You Jini. Yes it can been done, and people need to know how? And the results are indeed sweet.

  7. Congratulations Jai on finally getting the passport. It was indeed a struggle and I could feel what you had gone through during this whole process. Yes! in India there is lesser rules and greater regulations when it comes to single moms. In fact, It must have been the opposite. Hope this post gets more audience and single moms get know how to approach the authorities for passport.
    Menaka Bharathi recently posted…Seperation of Kamal Haasan and Gautami – 5 Questions to Ask Yourselves before Living TogetherMy Profile

    1. I hope so too.There is a process, people just need to know about it.

  8. As I said, this is something that needs a wider audience because there are plenty of single mothers in every state in India today and this would be a useful guide for them too.
    Roshan Radhakrishnan recently posted…Movie Characters that remind me of myself #TadkaTuesdayMy Profile

    1. Yes, I do hope that this serves its purpose. Thank you so much, Doc.

  9. this calls for celebration jai, congrats on receiving S passport at your terms …you nailed it girl & happy for you 🙂
    dew cool recently posted…Pregnancy Digest – Part 4My Profile

    1. Thank You so much

  10. Happy that you got it finally. I too got a bad experience. When we were traveling to South Africa, we were stopped at Dubai for not bringing the original new birthcertificate of my son. It was very difficult to explain our side. Somehow managed to reasch SA.
    Vasantha Vivek recently posted…This MOM’s LifeMy Profile

    1. Sorry that you had such a bad experience. Thank You so much

  11. That’s awesome that he finally got it! With such things, it is important to have a process in place. I have to renew my passport next year and I’m already fretting over it.
    Soumya recently posted…Book Review: A Midsummer’s EquationMy Profile

    1. Yes the process is important, and people need to know the process. I am sure the renewal will be a breeze. It comes in Two days I have heard.

  12. Wow! Don’t know why these things are so difficult in India.Glad you wrote about it Jai. Congrats to you and S for getting the passport. You are an inspiration..Kudos!
    Deepa recently posted…Movies I Can Relate To #TadkaTuesdayMy Profile

    1. Its because people don’t know that this can be done. Thank You Deepa 🙂

  13. I am so glad taht after all the hurdles,S finally got the passport. And that there is some order in place. Calls for a party I say! 😉

    1. Thank You Ramya, time to party I agree. Feels like such a big win.

  14. I am so happy that you were determined and were able to get the Passport. Yes, it took time but finally it’s here. Thanks for sharing what needs to be done. It’s important to share these learnings with other single parents.
    Parul Thakur recently posted…The entrance to Safdarjung TombMy Profile

    1. The whole point of the post was that Parul. I know many single moms don’t get a a passport made because they imagine the efforts to be futile. YEs its is cumbersome, but definitely not futile.

  15. Congratulations on getting the passport. I have been hearing good things about how they’ve made the process easier, glad to see that there is some truth in what we hear. What a relief it must be for you! Celebrate!

    1. Yes such a big relief, and the process is definitely much better than it is made out to be.

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